Many of us are co-dependent and Dissociated. What's important to remember though is that you're a human BEING, not a human DOING we simply can't do everything for everyone. This post explores and tackles ways that codependency has impaired our life and, more importantly, it will show us how to repair it. We'll be brought through a process of realisation so that, finally, we can start to live OUR desired life on our terms.
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We need giving, loving, compassionate and empathic people like us. However, we also need to receive love, kindness, and compassion in return. The concept of the cycle of receiving and giving is sometimes difficult for people who are codependents, because they're often in one-sided relationships. However, we're disabling ourself from our authentic path and purpose when we continue to enable others this way despite our best intentions, we're also depriving the person we're sheltering of the lessons they need to learn and grow. The truth is; we can only give so much for so long before we start suffering and need help ourselves. our 'need to be needed' is actually an embedded fear of abandonment somewhere in our subconscious, can we transform any fear of abandonment into healthy recovery.
The symptoms of Codependency include:
Approval seeking, or people pleasing.
Fear of being alone or abandoned.
Feeling selfish, or guilty for not meeting the needs of others.
Feeling not good enough, or "too much" or "too little."
Irritable when others don't take your advice.
Diminishing yourself in order to lift up others.
Being everyone's "go to" person.
Getting caught in others' trauma and drama.
Rescuing or fixing others, to our demise.
Giving ultimatums, or nagging to keep others out of trouble.
Covering or taking a fall for others.
Enduring unhealthy relationships to avoid loneliness.
Giving of our finances and other resources to depletion.
Having an addict, user, abuser, or narcissist in our personal life.
Having self-limiting or self-sabotaging beliefs.
Over-responsibility or doing more than our fair share.
We can do anything with TENSTAGE+, but we can't do everything!
Each lesson starts with a Letting Go affirmation to summarise and sublimate the lessons into our subconscious. A child Within healing meditation is also included This course will not change our true personality. It is not telling us to give less. More than anything, it'll enlighten us on how to give and live well, without guilt or fear. We'll discover much more than just learning to say "No" to others. We'll learn how to say "Yes!" to ourself in self actualised and interdependently form healthy, reciprocal relationships.
The Roots of Codependency.
Regaining a Sense of Self.
The Neuroscience of Codependency.
Healing Family Secrets.
Child Within Healing.
Compassion Fatigue Protection.
What do YOU Want?
Revealing and Healing Unhealthy Relationships.
Healthy Connections.
Enlightenment of our Gift of Giving loving-kindfulness
Developing Safe Boundaries.
Servanthood vs. Servitude.
Approval Seeking and People Pleasing Intervention.
Zero Tolerance=Infinite Possibilities.
Financial Independence.
Peaceful and Powerful.
Emerging Independence and Interdependence.
You Are Good Enough.
When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds; your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world.
Dormant forces, faculties and talents become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be."
-Patanjali
Dissociation of the child within? The child within of most of us, gets stuck in a state of suspended animation forever, such that most of us perish inwardly before we even reach adulthood. Our emotional dissociation overcome us and snuff out our spirit. Our family systems convert our minds into continued dissociation. We lose our creativity and intuition, we block out emotional reality of our childhoods, and we become consuming automatons. We survive in order to live for dissociated comfort, happiness, and emotional camouflage. We become the society norm.
Our child within death rate the world over is high. Yet the people of that who take the statistics and rule the governments and make the children and devote their careers to “educating” them are by and large dead themselves, and part of their deadness involves ignoring this. They lack connection to their own inner psychic nutrients and instead get them from feeding, like vultures, on the energy of the vulnerable ones who are still alive. And because this is so normal no one bats an eye. It is indefensible, yet families and society are structured to defend it. And the easiest way to defend it is to say that it’s not even happening.
It is a painful thing to wake up fighting for our child within. It breaks rules. It angers the norm. It enrages parents. It puts a target on our back. And it hurts. It hurts like hell. It hurts to rip down the psychic prison wall and feel the old traumas and disrespect, the old longings, the old memories. It hurts to grieve, to feel the rage, to confront our perpetrators who haunt our memories, to break the denial of a normalised? society. It hurts to shed the mask of comfort and walk into our dissociated despair. It hurts to reject the fantasy of one day being loved by those who never really loved you and instead drank and regurgitate our psychic blood. It hurts to leave the family system behind. It hurts to stand on our own.
Yet this process of waking up, and this alone, is the pathway back to intuitive life to a long, healthy inherited life of liberty. This is healthiness for our child within.
Bad stuff can happen to us at any age, but it is the early life stuff resulting primarily from the familial actions that dissociate us the most. At this stage of our development we are the most malleable. We experience later events through the lenses of these earlier traumas, such that the earlier ones provide magnification and distortion. Early life traumas often set the stage for the later ones to happen, such that people not infrequently unconsciously replicate earlier traumatic situations and relationships. You would think that this would give us more incentive to hold our families, educators accountable, yet often we do the opposite. We find comfort in blaming our life’s woes solely on later relationship traumas, as if they happened outside of our historic family context. This can allow us to still feel some of the pain and rage and sorrow of having been traumatised yet simultaneously maintain a close relationship with our abusive families. We place the blame outside our family unit and in so doing protect our troubled family system, never having to heal their root traumas, and never have to face that reality of our painful truth.
Dissociation Diagnosis Trauma Amnesia - Trauma Amnesia is a form of cognitive suppression where an abuse victim has trouble remembering episodes where their boundaries have been violated.
