Are You a Son or Daughter of Dissociational Parents? Take This Brief Survey to Find Out.

Are You a Son or Daughter of Dissociational Parents? Take This Brief Survey to Find Out.

Dissociation Identity Disorder is a spectrum disorder with the most severe end of the spectrum considered a personality disorder. A parent can have several traits and not fit the personality disorder. Mothers and Fathers with only a few traits listed can negatively affect you in insidious ways.


(Check all those that apply to your relationship with your parents)
When you discuss your life issues with your parents, do they divert the discussion to talk about themselves?
When you discuss your feelings , do they try to top the feeling with her own?
Do your parents or parent act jealously of you?
Do they lack empathy for your feelings?
Do they only support those things you do that reflect on themselves as a “good parent"?
Have you consistently felt a lack of emotional closeness with your parents?
Have you consistently questioned whether or not your parents likes you or loves you?
Do your parents only do things for you when others can see?
When something happens in your life (accident, illness, divorce) does your parent/parents react with how it will affect them rather than how you feel?
Is or were your parents overly conscious of what others think (neighbours, friends, family, co-workers)?
Do your parents deny her/his own feelings?
Do your parent/s blame things on you or others rather than own responsibility for their feelings or actions?
Is or were your parent/s hurt easily and then carried a grudge for a long time without resolving the problem?
Do you feel you were a slave to your parent/s?
Do you feel you were responsible for your parents’s ailments or sickness (headaches, stress, illness)?
Did you have to take care of your parents’s physical needs as a child?
Do you feel unaccepted by your parents?
Do you feel your parents was critical of you?
Do you feel helpless in the presence of your parent?
Are you shamed often by your parent?
Do you feel your parents knows the real you?
Do your parents act like the world should revolve around them?

Do you find it difficult to be a separate person from your parent?
Do your parents appear phoney to you?

Do your parents want to control your choices?
Do your parent/s swing from egotistical to a depressed mood?
Did you feel you had to take care of your parent’s emotional needs as a child?
Do you feel manipulated in the presence of your parents?
Do you feel valued by parent for what you do rather than who you are?
Are your parents controlling, acting like a victim or martyr?
Do your parent/s make you act different from how you really feel?
Do your family compete with you?
Does your family always have to have things their way?


Note: All of these questions relate to dissociational traits. The more questions you checked, the more likely your parents has  traits and this has caused some difficulty for you as a growing child and adult.

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CHILD WITHINS: Hidden Agenda Workshops: You have big dreams. You feel that you have a big purpose. You know that you can make a massive difference in this world.
There’s just one problem – you don’t have permission to do it.
Yup, that’s right. Permission.
We’ve met many who thought that they needed permission from someone else to live their dreams. It’s like they’ve been waiting around for some board of approvals to say:
GO FOR IT – IT’S OKAY FOR YOU TO SHINE!
The thing is, the world will very rarely give you permission to do anything other than just fit in. Your family may want you to stay the same, to not rock the boat.
You don’t want to be judged or selfish. So you just go along with it.
But, the problem is, each day there is a little voice that whispers to you that there’s something more. But, you don’t have permission from the tribe or the family, so you stay small unrecognised.
That is, until one day, there’s so much pain that you are forced to wake up. It’s like life is saying, “Grow or die.”
And so, timidly you choose to grow, but not too much or too fast – you don’t want to rock the boat.
Here’s the thing – screw the boat.
You have a gift to give to the world. You have a unique voice and talents that can not only improve your life, but the lives of others, too. And playing small doesn’t serve any of us.
You playing small doesn’t serve you. You are meant for more than that.
Playing small doesn’t serve me or anyone else you could help – because we need you to play a bigger game. That’s how you change.
Instead of not rocking the boat, decide to make waves.
So, here’s the good news, and I’m going to say it in CAPS because it’s REALLY GOOD NEWS:
THE ONLY PERSON’S PERMISSION YOU NEED TO SHINE, IS YOUR OWN CHILD WITHIN.

Dissociation Identity Disorder studies the parental roots of dissociation.

Dissociation Identity Disorder studies the parental roots of dissociation.We really need a child within us who loves us fully. We need a child within who understand us fully. We need a child within who can adequately translate the needs behind our cries…and our coughs…and our silences. We need our child within who is now open to learn all they can learn from us, and we need to learn all this from our relationship with our re-birthed child within

We needed parents who recognise that once they've brought us into the world they must devote their lives to body, soul and us. We needed parents who realise that all their purposes in existing must be performed in light of how it can help us grow, help us mature, and help us thrive.

We needed parents who have spent years in preparation for our creation – years before the sperm and the egg that created me ever met. We needed parents who devoted their lives to the betterment of themselves in mind, body, and spirit. We needed parents who entered the deepest and darkest depths of themselves and resolved the most painful traumas of their own past. We needed parents who no longer live awash in the wounds foisted on them by their own parents. We need parents who have become fully enlightened and no longer store hidden parts of their ravaged selves in their unconscious.

We needed parents who no longer wish for their own parents to rescue them, and secretly expect me, their future offspring, to pick up the torch where their own parents left off. We needed parents who can instead devote the whole summation of their beings toward the betterment of us.

We needed parents who have had me so that they can give, and not take, from me. We need parents who had children out of no other motive than their desire to give back to the earth. We needed the kind of parents who realise fully just how inherently selfish having children is. We needed the kind of parents who would normally never have children…

We needed parents who don’t lie to us – or to them. We needed parents who can be straight with us. We needed parents who can be straight with each other, and have no hidden agendas for us. We need parents who don’t use us as a pawn in their relationship games with others, and most especially each other.

We needed parents who can let us be who We are – and not brag about me. We needed parents who do not see me as an extension of them, and thus do not say “thank you” when someone compliments our beauty. We needed parents who instead say, “yes, you’re right,” and don’t secretly feel self-gratified by my wondrous self.

We needed parents who do not live in fear of their own deaths. We needed parents who live in the moment, because they have integrated the truths of their past.

We needed parents who are youthful in spirit and healthy in body, and who will not abandon us to death before we are ready to stand on our own as an autonomous adult.

We needed parents who raise us in a safe and co

mfortable and enriching environment – not in the midst of a civil war or a starvation-torn land or a silent room with a television.

We needed parents who, if we are a boy or a girl, wouldn’t dare circumcise our genital organs. We need parents who devote themselves to our health. We needed parents who don’t drink alcohol or take drugs or take unnecessary medications. We needed parents who are sober at all levels of their being. We need parents who would never physically hurt us, for any reason.

We needed parents who love children, and can easily relate to them – and don’t instead force us to relate to them. We needed parents who let us grow at our own pace, and let us be a kid when We need to be a kid. We needed parents who don’t expect adult responsibility of us before we become an adult.

We needed parents who marvel at the preciousness of our existence and realise that we are the epitome of our unbounded spirit. We needed parents who laugh because they feel the joy in our life. We needed parents who know how to have honest fun, and want to include us in it.

We needed parents who have resolved their addictions. We needed parents who are not avoiding the true light of day by being addicted to me. We needed parents who do not project their blocked past onto us, but instead see me for exactly for who We are. We needed parents who do not expect me to love them. We needed parents who know the difference between love and need. We needed parents who are experts on self-nurturance, and by extension know how to nurture us.

We needed parents who are emotional adults through and through – and we need two of these parents. And we need these two parents to also love each other. We needed these two parents to be fully in accord with their holy role as the warden of our growth. We needed two parents who are both willing to go to all lengths to give their best for us. We needed two parents who are both willing to die for us.

We needed parents who can progressively let us go as we progressively mature. We needed parents who can follow our lead and listen to our revisions of the plan. We needed parents who do not go into withdrawal when we don’t love them.

We needed parents who let me get angry when they make errors or do inappropriate things with us – and We needed parents who change their behaviour so they stop making these errors. We needed parents who do not punish us for our honest and healthy reactions, and love us anyway.

We needed parents who understand the meaning of healthy human sexuality. We needed parents who will in no way use us to meet their own unresolved sexual or love needs. We needed parents who will shield us from as much of the hellish impurity of the world as they are humanly able to do. We needed parents who are willing to sacrifice all their own personal comforts to create a nourishing environment for us.

We needed parents who take no credit when the work is done.




We needed parents who would have been our role models.






We need to communicate these facts to our child within as we work the Ten Stages.